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The Improve Your Mood Playlist

The Improve Your Mood Playlist

Blog Written By Rebecca Szalay 

Do you ever notice when you are feeling down that you gravitate towards music that reflects that mood? How about when you’re excited?  Do you change the music if a slow or sad song comes on because you feel happy?  Music has the ability to express every emotion and we can prolong those moods by continuously listening to those same emotional pieces.  Our emotions and events in our lives and how we handle them shape who we are and the decisions we make in the future.  Sometimes, when feeling down, we are not ready to talk to someone. We need time by ourselves, but we don’t always know how to get out of that bad place.   

How do we use music to get us out of that “funk” or negative emotion when we are not in the mood for the happy stuff?  

The Iso-Principle  

It’s called the iso-principal.  “[Iso-principle is] a technique by which music is matched with the mood of a client, then gradually altered to affect the desired mood state. This technique can also be used to effect physiological responses such as heart rate and blood pressure” (Davis, Gfeller, & Thaut, 2008).  

Make Your Playlist 

Making a playlist for your mood is a very effective way to use the iso-principle at home. Give it a try by following these steps:

1)  First, understand that you are allowed to feel bad. If you are sad, mad, puzzled or just feeling “emotional,” it’s okay.  We all have those times and need to work through them. Let’s make a playlist.   

2) Start with songs that match your mood. Those ones you gravitate towards that speak to your soul and your current emotional state. Pick a couple of these songs, this is a gradual process.  

3) Then, choose a few songs that are less sad/mad but not quite as energetic as something like “Happy” by Pharrell Williams.  

4) Start focusing on your breathing.  Use the slow pace of the song to breathe in and out and focus on calming.  This will help you lower your heart rate and blood pressure, allowing you to calm and start heading towards a physical baseline. The purpose of this playlist is to gradually bring yourself from the negative to the positive. It is a set of songs that, when they are done, help you know that you will be okay, you can do this, and that negative feeling will not last forever. The playlist does not need to end in dancing around the kitchen to your favorite upbeat songs (although if it does, you will have fun doing so).  

The intent behind your playlist is to help you to move on and be okay doing so.  This process can take a while depending on how you feel.  If you create this playlist ahead of time and save it, it is ready when you need it. 

If you have any questions about making a mood playlist or want to share your “good mood” songs with us, we would love to hear from you!  

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Parenting: Finding Calm in the Chaos (Part 2)

Parenting: Finding Calm in the Chaos (Part 2)

Understanding ourselves, as parents, and being aware of how we respond to difficult situations, can greatly improve our parenting approach and by doing so increase healthy and helpful interactions with our children. When this happens both
the parents, children, and spousal relationship begin to notice a sense of calm even during the expected chaotic moments of raising children.

In Part 1 of this 2-part blog series, Parenting: Finding Calm in the Chaos, we focused on supporting parents by providing an adult inventory of potential triggers when parenting. If you did not get a chance to review that inventory, we encourage you to read the first blog and take a moment to reflect before attempting to implement the strategies we’ll be sharing with you today. 

No matter if your children have special needs, mental health challenges, or are typically developing, there are some helpful strategies we use as therapist, we believe are beneficial when implemented by parents as well. Keeping
in mind what you learned about your triggers and the things you can do to manage your needs, let’s now look at strategies to use with your children.

  • 5 Suggested Strategies to Use with Your Children:
    • Start the day with background music. Even before your children’s feet hit the floor have preselected music that you have noticed creates a calming environment for your family. This might be a playlist, nature-focused music, or a particular genre. Music can help instill calm, promote self-regulation, and impart a happy feeling. One idea for your
      family to try is this link of Disney Relaxing Piano.
    • Identify and communicate the allowed behaviors. Setting clear boundaries for children is vital. If they do not understand what is allowed and what is not, despite which adult is watching them, this can create confusion. For example, a parent can say the following: “Sitting at the table with feet on the floor and cleaning up your table space
      when finished eating will tell me that are ready for family game time.” Adopting the same style of communication as shown in this example is important for both parents to use as consistency creates calm. Notice how it was focused on the allowed behaviors.
    • Used planned-ignoring. There are times when your child wants attention and in some cases they will seek it anyway they can get it. Catching the child as soon as they stop a particular inappropriate attention seeking behavior and immediately giving them attention begins to shape their actions. They will learn that I do not have to be loud or
      doing something I am not supposed to be doing to get mom or dad’s attention.
    • Add fun perks for everyone working together. The idea of teaching a family to be a team increases the prospect of decreasing chaos. When children see that everyone is doing their part of the chores gets the work done quickly leaving time for movie night, they are much more apt to do their part without resistance. No child is too young to be
      involved. There are always simple tasks that can be completed by children as young as two and you will find that they really like having their own special role.
    • Consider a Safe or Sensory Space. Many of us were raised with the concept of time out. The point was to send a child to a separate location so that they are removed from the activity that is going on because they were misbehaving. We encourage coming at this from a more nurturing perspective. When we can identify the reason the child needs a change, such as your body does not look safe right now or you seem to need a quieter place to calm your thoughts you are letting the child know that you are paying attention and realize they are struggling. When a child is doing something that appears unsafe then helping them to understand the need to have them move to a safe chair or safe zone will make sure that no one gets hurt. The message is now coming from the focus of “Because I love you and your siblings, we want to be sure everyone stays safe”. When children notice their needs are being recognized, they calm much quicker. Many times, a child can learn to self-regulate on their own if provided with the most helpful environment. Below are examples to consider.

 

“Our greatest source of chaos can also be our greatest source of peace.

This is very true when it comes to parenting”.

– Amy Thomas

 

To reach out to a Licensed Creative Arts Therapist related to specific needs with a child click on our contact us link and one of our therapists will be in touch.

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Parenting: Finding Calm in the Chaos (Part 1)

Parenting: Finding Calm in the Chaos (Part 1)

Whether you are a parent or not, everyone appreciates calm. Life is full of noise, busyness, tension, and high energy activity and we often struggle to find space for relaxing and peaceful moments. It is for this reason that adults, teens, and children alike will need to be intentional to find calm. In this first part of our two-part blog, we would like to focus on the needs of parents when life feels chaotic. 

When polling parents in 2021 many moms and dads reported that they needed more support, both emotional and hands on assistance so they could step away when feeling overwhelmed. Since the pandemic began in March 2020 parents have been faced with the reality of being not only parent, but also teacher and mental health supporter. These additional responsibilities have been challenging and, for most families, have caused parents to reach their breaking point. Parents frequently call our office asking for help because their child is melting down or isolating themselves in their room, angry or depressed when they can’t to be with friends, go to school, or participate in extracurricular events. How it is possible to find calm in these challenging situations?

Parenting, in normal circumstances, can certainly feel chaotic at times, however the pandemic has elevated the tension, especially with families of children who have struggled with big or unsteady emotions or difficulty with change. In Part 2 of this blog series, we will provide parents with a list of strategies they can use with their children. But first, we want to provide this quick self-inventory to equip parents in learning more about their triggers, as this is a key step is managing chaos.

  • Adult Inventory – What triggers you?
    • Strong emotions of others (Anger, Sadness, Fear, Apathy)
    • Arguments between those in the home
    • Screaming or excessive talking
    • Loud noises
    • Something getting broken
    • Using curse words or unacceptable language
    • Saying no or refusing to do something
    • Moving too slowly
    • Running or being physically active

Can you relate to one or more of these triggers? If you said yes, that is good news, because it means that you are aware of what makes you feel uneasy. Now that you recognize the things that cause you to trigger, let’s identify what you notice about yourself when this happens. Think about your body. Do you notice it tensing up, pressure in the chest, shaking, heart racing, or feeling the need to pace? Now notice what’s going on in your mind. Do your thoughts begin to race, turn extreme, or shutdown? And do these responses to the chaos build up slowly or happen very quickly? This information is very helpful in managing your response to these triggers. The key is to notice them and then find an effective way to decrease the response to the trigger so you can regain your composure. Whether children are simply playing with high energy or expressing big emotions they need the adults around them to model the best way to respond when challenges arise. This in no way means that parents will be perfect but instead do their best when times get tough. Children are watching the adults’ cues of how to respond to stressful situations.

 

“When little people are overwhelmed by emotions,

it’s our job to share our calm, not to join the chaos.”

L.R. Knost

 

  • Strategies for Parents to Manage their Own Needs
    • Be Compassionate with Yourself. You may not be able to do it all, but what you do accomplish, feel good about. Notice the signs your trigger is starting and coach yourself to recover by taking 2 -5 minutes away as able. This is a great example for children.
    • Find Mini Self Care Moments. Take a few minutes throughout your day to listen to a favorite song, watch an inspiring video, read something short and inspirational, breathe slowly, or do whatever makes you feel calmer.
    • Plan But be Flexible. Organization can decrease chaos so plan and prepare things ahead of time, however, also accept if it needs to change without judgement.
    • Look For Resources. Connect with other parents, community centers, churches, and schools to learn about free or low-cost resources for opportunities for outside family enrichment and support to parents.
    • Fun with Family Opportunities. Recognize the moments in the past when your family laughed and enjoyed being together. Remembering these moments is good for the soul. Try to replicate these, when possible, even on a smaller scale.

Keep an eye out for Parenting: Finding Calm in the Chaos (Part 2), which will release next month, to learn strategies
to use with children to help bring calm to the chaos.

To reach out to a Licensed Creative Arts Therapist related to specific needs with a child, contact us and one of our therapists will be in touch.

 

 

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Sensory Safe Mindfulness

Sensory Safe Mindfulness

lik.We hope you have been enjoying our Summer 2021 Mindfulness Blog Series. In this last blog on the topic of mindfulness we want to provide practical ways to apply mindfulness safely. Because each person needs and prefers different ways to slow down the mind and notice the most present surroundings and circumstances, having a variety of options to consider is one way to allow a custom plan to be created.

If you are not working with a mental health professional but are realizing as you read these blogs that you might be struggling with depression, anxiety, or a past trauma, you will want to steer away from the mindfulness exercises that are more introspective and require closing your eyes. If you have not already read our third blog of the series, Mindfulness Through a Trauma Informed Lens, we highly recommend you do. Below is a list of wonderful safe opportunities to practice mindfulness with great results.

 

Sensory Based Mindfulness

Seeking opportunities to smell, taste, feel, and listen in a pursuit of noticing the environment around you with an increased awareness.

 

  • Ice Cream Mindfulness – The summer is a perfect time for this appetizing mindfulness activity. Once you have your dish or cone of ice cream find a space that is quiet and free of distraction. Notice how it looks right after it was served and how it changes as you move through the exercise. Does the shape remind you of anything? Can you smell the ice cream? Is it melting quickly or slowly? How does it feel on your tongue and how long will it stay there until it melts away? What do you notice as you’re swallowing this cool treat? Slow down and notice. You may realize something new about this common experience or you may simply appreciate the space you created for yourself to stay present while enjoying it.

 

  • Music & Coloring Mindfulness – Music plays a huge role in our day-to-day routines. Some begin their day with a morning alarm that plays one of their favorite songs or stations. In the car on the way to work or an activity a radio station is selected, or a favorite playlist is streaming. Perhaps kid’s songs are a necessity to keep the young one’s content. Let’s not forget the
    weeknight or weekend concerts and musical entertainments. We’ve linked a mindfulness music playlist link below as well as a coloring PDF. Resources like these provide you with a unique opportunity to notice the nuances within the music as you add color to the mandala coloring page. What colors are you choosing as you listen? How do the sounds make you feel or what do they make you think of? Do your color choices change along with the changes in the music? Where in your body are you feeling the music the most?

Download this free mandala coloring sheet by clicking on the photo to the right. You can find other free coloring pages by clicking here.  

  • Nature Walk Mindfulness – Over the years many have shared with us that nature is where they find the least distractions and notice feeling most calm. This might be a hiking trail, an open park with trees and benches, at a cottage, or near a lake or ocean. Regardless of the destination it is a cherished place. As you move through this location take moments to pause and listen. Make a mental note of all the things you can hear. Look around you and name 5 things that you can see and then select the one that is the most attractive to you. Take in a breath through your nose and exhale through your mouth. What are the scents around you? Have you smelled them before? Are there any memories attached to those smells? Are their textures that you can explore with your hands or feet? As you experience this space use all the senses to notice and appreciate the opportunity to enjoy and stay present.

Staying present can be hard for the overactive mind. While trying these sensory activities be patient with yourself. When thoughts enter your mind that are unrelated to this mindfulness exercise, without judgement, excuse that thought and resume your mindfulness activity.

We hope you have enjoyed this fourth and final blog of our four-part Summer 2021 Mindfulness Blog Series and would love to hear from you regarding other topics you are interested in learning more about. Contact us if you’re interested in learning more about our mental health, creative arts, and music therapy services.

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Mindfulness Through a Trauma Informed Lens

Mindfulness Through a Trauma Informed Lens

In Part 2 of our Summer 2021 Mindfulness Blog Series, we focused on the first three of six important considerations when beginning mindfulness and its safety for everyone.   Today we will explore the last three of six, to share our view of the best way to practice mindfulness and identify any safety concerns for you, your child, or loved one.   

It is important to note that 70% of adults in the U.S. have experienced some type of traumatic event at least once in their lives. That’s 223.4 million people.  When considering this high percentage, we always want to err on the side of caution when asking people to close their eyes and invite them to imagine, see visualizations, or even left to just notice the silence.     

Is mindfulness a safe practice for everyone?  These final considerations are the most critical when leading a mindfulness group or encouraging an individual to begin using mindfulness practices.  

Group presentations of mindfulness should be conducted very carefully   

  • Many teens share with us that they have been required to participate in mindfulness in one or more of their classes at school.  Some mention that they have felt panicked doing everything in their power to escape the room or be sick the days of those classes.   
  • Some have grown to think of mindfulness as something that is not for them.  Frequently this is because it was not tailored to their needs.  Instead, they associate it with a large group of people in a room closing their eyes required to listen to sounds, music, a script, or silence, which is a very narrow understanding of the practice.  

Individuals who have experienced past or recent trauma should participate with caution.   

  • It is highly recommended that a professional work with adults or children who have experienced trauma to help them find the right type of mindfulness activities.  Most of the time the activities will not include closing eyes or open meditation initially, but instead will work more on sensory mindfulness.  We will share more about this in Part 4 of our series.   
  • A professional will often assist an individual in finding their calm place with evidence that they able to successfully visualize and stay in this place without their mind wandering.  This can be a very powerful mindfulness tool when properly created and practiced.   The trained leader will also be sure that the individual is not experiencing any forms of dissociation prior to teaching these methods.  

Every person needs to remain within their window of tolerance.  

  • Earlier we mentioned that clients have shared with us that they left a mindfulness group activity in a panic.  This is an example of someone being drawn out of their window of tolerance without assistance provided to help them find their way back.  No one would create this situation on purpose; however, it can be a direct result of opening mindfulness in a group forum without contingencies for individuals to opt out if necessary.   
  • The window of tolerance is a term commonly used in trauma counseling.  It describes the zone of arousal in which a person can function effectively.  An individual can feel upset, anxious, or scared, but still be able to function and not be completely highjacked by their emotions.  If an individual has not been taught the tools to tolerate distress, there is a good possibility that they may struggle with general mindfulness.   

Using a trauma informed lens is imperative when teaching mindfulness however this is not always used by mindfulness leaders.  It is our hope that this blog series will help to spread the word to bring higher levels of safety and success to teaching mindfulness practices.  

We look forward to sharing our final blog soon of our four-part Summer 2021 Mindfulness Blog Series and hope you will join us.    

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the parents, children, and spousal relationship begin to notice a sense of calm even during the expected
chaotic moments in day-to-day child rearing.

Part 2: Is Mindfulness Safe for Everyone?

Part 2: Is Mindfulness Safe for Everyone?

In Part 1 of our Summer 2021 Mindfulness Blog Series, we learned what Mindfulness is and is not.  We also answered the question about its link to religion.  We encourage you to read all the blogs within the series for a comprehensive understanding.   

Today we would like to focus on the question of, Is mindfulness a safe practice for everyone?  It certainly appears on the surface that mindfulness would be a safe exercise to learn and for many individuals it is, however, there are some important considerations.  Below we will explore the first three of six, in hopes of learning the best way to practice mindfulness and whether further thought should be explored before jumping into using it.   

 

A clear definition of mindfulness should be understood.  

  • Before practicing any new exercises, it is always a wise choice to fully understand what is involved.  If you are learning from a life coach, mental health therapist, or yoga instructor there is usually a discussion and confirmation that the individual understands and would like to learn mindfulness.  Always ask for clarity if it is not shared.  
  • On the other hand, there are circumstances in which individuals, including our youth, who find themselves in a scholastic or community group where it is presented without a great deal of explanation or opportunity for having questions answered.  And in some cases, there is no way for the individual to opt out.  This can cause some unintentional harm to a participant, so should be seriously considered prior to introducing mindfulness.  

Meditation is NOT the only way to present mindfulness.   

  • Because meditation is one of the first things that comes to a person’s mind when they hear mindfulness, they may not be willing to try this practice.  Although meditation can be a very helpful mindfulness tool, some individuals will reject the concept of mindfulness all together if they think meditation is required. 
  • Closing eyes is not a necessity when practicing mindfulness.  If an individual is resistant to closing their eyes during meditation or another mindfulness exercise that is perfectly fine.  Focal points within a room or a favorite drawing or photo is a great way to focus the mind and eliminate visual distractions.  

The person helping you to learn mindfulness should be practicing it as well.  

  • When learning mindfulness from another individual it is a very appropriate question to ask if they are practicing mindfulness.  It is very important to have experienced the feelings and challenges that go along with perfecting the skill of mindfulness.  If the leader is not doing so on a regular basis, they will have trouble guiding others. 
  • An effective mindfulness leader will acknowledge that there are many ways to practice mindfulness and guide each person into a specialized plan that will allow them to be successful.   

We hope you will join us in the coming weeks for Part 3 of our Summer 2021 Mindfulness Blog Series, where will highlight the last three considerations to insure safe mindfulness practice. 

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Understanding ourselves, why we respond the way we do, can greatly improve our parenting approach
and by doing so increase healthy and helpful interactions with our children. When this happens both
the parents, children, and spousal relationship begin to notice a sense of calm even during the expected
chaotic moments in day-to-day child rearing.